April 15. Fire đźś‚: Passion and Drive
Preparing for Battle
Sometimes our passion is for war. When we feel threatened in some way, we can go straight to anger, defense and battle.Â
If we think we are being mistreated, we might decide our friend is now our enemy. Now, we are ready to fight. How often do we don our armor when we only needed to sit down and talk it out? Sometimes we go into fight-mode unnecessarily because we will not risk the vulnerable state of honest fear. We will not confess our need for love.Â
Related Expertise
“The moment I stop listening to you is the moment I begin to judge you,” Dr. Lisa M. Chase, PhD, family therapist.
Inspired Action
Take five long, deep breaths and ask yourself if there is any way this experience is inflated by fear, or if it triggers past painful experiences. Take time to say nothing. Cry if you must. Then talk to someone who is objective until you can feel love and compassion once again. Proceed to navigate your concerns without making assumptions. Begin with love and an effort to understand. Trust that this defense might be unwarranted.
